The problem is that most of the time we find ourselves competing in a winner takes all situation. Competing for money, class, and status of being at the top.
Once you remove yourself from playing the status and money game you become untouchable. No one can touch you when you playing legacy and family game.
By focusing on family, wealth, and the overall legacy you start to remove yourself from the rest of pack and chase different things for totally different reasons. Your leverage is now greater and you start playing at a whole different level.
Your moves are more calculated, you play the long game to build wealth for the family and think about the legacy you going to leave behind. And that, that is ultimate leverage.